Sinat chinam<\/em>, unwarranted hatred, remains a stubborn problem in the ongoing story of our people.<\/p>\nInterestingly, the Talmud blames Jacob for the brothers’ treacherous deed, and for the future course of the history of his descendants. It comments:<\/p>\n
“One should never favor one child over his other children, for it was the mere two shekels worth of silk, which Jacob gave to Joseph over and above that which he gave to his other children, that caused the brothers to be envious of him, leading eventually to our forefathers’ descent into Egypt.”<\/p>\n
The multicolored garment, with which Jacob showed special favor to his son Joseph, provoked the envy of the other brothers, and the rest is Jewish history.<\/p>\n
Can we discern any connection between the favoritism demonstrated by Jacob, and condemned by our sages, and the festive holiday of Chanukah?<\/p>\n
I think we can, and I share this admittedly novel idea with you, dear reader.<\/p>\n
The central mitzvah<\/em> of Chanukah is, of course, the lighting of candles each of the eight nights. Strictly speaking, this mitzvah<\/em> can be fulfilled by the head of the household lighting a single candle on behalf of the entire family\u2014ner ish u’beito<\/em>, a candle for the master of the house on behalf of the entire household.<\/p>\nHowever, the prevalent custom is that every member of the family, every child, every boarder, and every guest kindles his or her own menorah<\/em>. No favorites here. Everyone gets to light a menorah<\/em>.<\/p>\nCan it be that this custom arose as an antidote to the tendency some parents have to play favorites among their children? Can it be that the central message of Chanukah is that all children have an equal role to play in this holiday, and, moreover, in the very destiny of the Jewish people?<\/p>\n
I have found no source in our literature for this interpretation. But nonetheless, it feels right to me. I personally find it dramatically significant that on the very Sabbath in which we read of how Jacob singled out Joseph from his other children, we also celebrate Chanukah and light candles in a manner in which no one child is singled out as superior, in which all have an equal share.<\/p>\n
The lessons of Chanukah are many, and perhaps in future columns I will explore some of them with you.<\/p>\n
But here is a novel lesson, and a very important one. Envy can wreak havoc in a family. One way for parents to avoid this poisonous emotion is by treating all their children fairly and equally, and not by playing favorites.<\/p>\n
One of the wise sayings of Ben Sira, the Jewish sage whose work did not quite make it into the Bible, but which has much to teach us, is that “envy and wrath shorten life…”<\/p>\n
Wise parents will take this lesson to heart and not discriminate among their children. Instead, they will learn the lesson of Chanukah and give all children an equal role in celebrating this beautiful holiday, the “festival of lights.”<\/p>\n
I would like to take this opportunity to wish everyone a Happy Chanukah!<\/p>\n
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